I have been working on this in a variety of ways to become a more positive and happy person. July 5th is a day that two tragic things happened in my life. I don't want this day to constantly remind me of the sad and tragic. So I decided I need to rewire my brain for July 5th!
Ten years ago, July 5th we buried my husband. Funerals are days filled with a lot of emotions. So today I decided to focus on the good emotions, like the memories of all the people who loved and supported our family. Or the outburst of laughter when my mom stepped out in the hallway and announced to me she didn't know what to wear to the funeral. I simply told her not that and she looked down and announced in shock that she was naked!
Sixteen years ago July 5th, was when my husband fell asleep at the wheel and rolled the car four times starting me on the path to the total hip replacement surgery I just went through last month. So let me search for any good in this one! Well there is a lot! I could have easily died that day. In fact, it is a miracle that my two children in the car and my husband walked away from the accident. After being trapped in water for 45 minutes with an angel holding my head out of the water and firefighters cutting me free, I have been given the gift of 16 more years to enjoy my life and my children.
In that time, I have traveled the world and met tons of new people. Life has been almost a bonus the last 16 years. After the car accident, I have often said, "I am alive for a reason. I need to live life to the fullest to fulfill the reason I lived."
So if we try and find the positive, even in hard and difficult things, are minds don't have to go back to the negative year after year after year. I was able to do that today on an anniversary of things that were not good and you know what? I had a really good day today.